I watched the TED video of the day today, and I agreed with it so wholeheartedly that I had to write a post about it. Because lately, a lot of people have told me that their feeling pretty lonely. Myself included.
I have a fairly antagonistic relationship with technology. As someone who has seen technology’s impact on people’s lives first hand, I’ve struggled with the question as to whether the constant connection that we experience is that great. I see its benefits and how our lives are improved by it. But I also see the negative impact that it has on how we relate to each other.
And I find it really sad that a large percentage of people haven’t actually experienced intimacy. True intimacy and connection is a messy business. Because people are messy. Relationships are messy. And real life is exactly that–messy. But the Internet and social media tools that we use (even this one) make things neat and controlled–so people don’t have to feel vulnerable or take any serious risks in their relationships. So a lot of people don’t have a clue about how to navigate uncomfortable situations, which help them learn to deal with a full range of emotions (including the negative ones) and accept people for who they are. And these are the things that ultimately make you feel less alone and truly connected to other people.
So be brave. Take risks. Talk freely about how you feel. And let others talk freely too. And if something makes you uncomfortable–keep talking and explore it–because on the other side of that discomfort, you’ll learn something about yourself and the other person too.
And watch this video. 🙂